making the hard decisions
So.. looks like the boyfriend’s dog has cancer.
I’m feeling very overwhelmed right now on the internet googling everything from prognosis, to treatment, holistic medicine, diets….
He’s made an appointment for me to go talk to his vet today at 5pm. It feels very unfair that I have to do the hard parts… I am trying to accept that I am “better” at it than he is. Just trying to get the information from the previous appointments and phone calls from the boyfriend is exasperating. He doesn’t remember details, he mixes up the facts… and it’s him, who he is, I know that. But it’s one thing to foul a grocery list, it’s another to forget what life or death information a doctor gave you. *sigh*
Daisy is 12. The life expectancy for basset hounds is 12. Maybe cancer is to elderly canines what pneumonia is to elderly humans?
I don’t know how I would ever make all these choices for MY dogs, let alone someone else’s. I love Daisy, don’t get me wrong – but if I make a mistake, make a bad call… is he going to forgive me? Maybe he’s just taking the easy out right now. I don’t know… I just know my brain is really full and spinning a million words a minute.
@http-shannonspring-com the night my horse died, she told me. She said it was her time, she said “goodbye” (and 14 years later it still makes me bawl) Do dogs know, too? Is this their last gift to us?
I can only tell you what I do. I fight for my dogs as long as they A/ have quality of life and B/ they want to fight.
Oscar had a heart condition I knew that but when the day came that he couldnt cope and he looked at me with those eyes that said I've had enough, let me go. My heart broke but I knew I had to do it I had to give him that gift of love and lwt him go. I think your bf will know. Hes in denial now we all go through that but he will be strong for Daisy with your help.
Sending love and courage for the tough time ahead.. xxxx
Hi Thumbs, ❤️
Im sorry, I don’t know your first name. My love to you and Daisy. For now, let’s put aside the bf, as that’s a separate issue and let’s give our full attention to this beautiful pup. I truly honor your wanting to make the right decision and Daisy certainly sounds like she needs your input.
I’ve heard many animal communicators say that animals choose their passing, both how and when. I think what matters here is that Daisy be heard, so we can give her the gift of her wisdom being applied to her life. They truly are their own best guides, and I am in awe of how when they are listened to, it brings so much peace to the whole family.
Many animals I’ve connected with have diagnosed their own conditions and given recommendations on what they need... and it works. It’s been my experience that when the animal’s parents value the experience and wisdom of their pet, things are much better all around. In this case, with a shorter time left because of her age and illness; I would encourage you to keep an even more open mind of what’s possible- because that can either help expand her life, enhance the quality left, and/or simply give her and yourselves the gift of knowing a deeper part of Daisy, who she is, and what she’s experiencing right now. Doing so will allow you to feel more at ease in your heart and head with decisions you’re making.... because she will be included in these decisions in a way she never has before.
I would very much like to help you. If you’d like for me to connect with Daisy, I will also be happy to connect you with your beloved horse in Spirit, as a gift to you. You would pay for one reading and the other would be free. I am grateful you reached out to me because your having an open heart and mind will not only change the life of animals you love, it will change yours as well. You cannot go through life the old way, once you learn how very real this process is! Our animals have so much to say and so much to teach us, and humor that’s so much more sophisticated than I knew until I experienced it with mad respect for their comedic genius!
Luckily, more people are starting to wake up and see that alternative ways to see, hear, and treat our animals are a portal into experiencing deeper love, connection and answers.
Please message me at firstname.lastname@example.org and visit shannonspring.com for more info or to book a reading If you are not interested in a reading (plus the one for your horse), I’m happy to help here as much as I can, with the difference being it’ll be my opinion, not Daisy’s. I’d like to hear what Daisy has to share and let her help you help her ❤️❤️🐾🐾.
Shannon and my whole dog team of helpers
Devoted Dog Mom, Free Spirited Cool Cat
@mad-murphy thank you ❤️ i know i'm being selfish.. complaining about how "I" feel. guess i'm using here to "attack" because i feel that's what i'm getting in the real world.
@http-shannonspring-com. thank you. and you are right! they do have a wicked sense of humor. I'm nowhere near as gifted as you are... after my horse died it .. "broke" (i imagine i shut it down somehow, but don't know how to turn it back on, so to speak) My horse, Lady, and my dog Maybe are hilarious! And from people that can hear Maybe, i understand her to be somewhat of a potty mouth diva...
I'll discuss it with boyfriend after the vet tonight... after consulting an AC for my dog's issues, and the AC proved her worth repeating things that ONLY.THE.DOGS.KNEW! boyfriend is scared to hear what Daisy might say...
The logic in my brain says it's time... but brains are stupid and can't be trusted. 😭
Well, you made me laugh so it’s not all broke! Brains are stupid! They mislead us, lie to us, mess us up. Hearts speak truth and that’s what the animals speak from. I’m so glad to hear you had a positive experience with an AC!
There is never anything to fear about what they share, unless of course you’re a bad person, in which case, you wouldn’t be messaging an AC! ❤️
Im not making the 2 for 1 the reading offer to anyone else, so if you’d like to do so, please let me know over the weekend. In light of Valentine’s Day, wanted to make this gesture. Readings are $195, so it’s a super offer. My other business is as a Humorist, Founder of Just Humor Me. I’ll be doing a rare free online class on 3/6 about adding more play to your life, so feel free to follow Just Humor Me on FB and you’ll see the event notice soon. And you can learn to shake up your Humor game again! 😎
We never “lose” any of our gifts like Humor, they are just hidden; like how clouds hide the sun.., but the sun IS STILL ALWAYS SHINING behind the clouds. You’re obviously a great mom and gf. It sounds like your bf fear is ruling all his decisions and that’s a tough thing to be around. Just do your best to let Daisy feel your love, not his fear because they do feel EVERYTHING we feel. And she certainly deserves to feel loved, heard, and valued. ❤️🐾😇
slobber and fur,
shannon and dogs
Devoted Dog Mom, Free Spirited Cool Cat
Oh, these kinds of decisions are always so difficult. I fully believe that if you are intuitive to your pets that they will indeed tell you when it's time.
My Jack Russell Thistle had been going down hill with dementia and other health issues and I was struggling to keep his quality of life good. Most days he was not really "with it" as far as where he was in the world. One day I looked up to see him gazing at me with an incredibly clear, intent, intelligent and fully aware expression. I got the message. I even said to him, "OK Thistle....I get it....it's time." I made the appointment for the next day.
From what I've heard cancer treatment for dogs can be unpleasant for the dog. Of course that does depend on the type, location and the health of the dog. I hope that you will be able to get the answers you need from the veterinarian.
Sending best wishes.
Thank you for all the well wishes. ❤️
Sorry i don't get on the computer on weekends... We spent at least an hour at the vet's on Friday pummeling him with questions. Boyfriend has agreed to do the tumor removal surgery. At that point they will know exactly how far along she is and what future plans will be.
Fingers crossed they can get it all with one scoop!
thank you, @mariaandnikita. Her surgery is friday but i probably won't see her until sat/sun - depending, of course, on how she's doing.
she tends to get the crazies when i walk into boyfriend's house so we agreed it's probably best if i stay away. 🙄
@TheOneWithTheThumbs please pass on our love and know we will be thinking of Daisy and wishing her the very best outcome.
You can even give the BF a hug from all of us, because we know how scarey this is.