Say something nice
For the second time today I was reminded of something my mum used to say. If you cant say something nice say nothing at all..
The first time was years ago. I was walking the three dogs I had at the time when a lady crossed a whole parking lot to point at Remy (my brain damaged rat terrier) and tell me 'your dog is ugly'
I looked her straight in the eye and told her 'yes but he is only ugly on the outside'
Today I posted a picture of Murphy who is a pure stabij, in the picture he is slouching waiting for us to throw another ball.. Some big head know it all posted 'nice dog but maybe a bit of spaniel mixed in there and his legs are turned out'
Do people really have any idea of how hurtful such remarks are? Would they walk up to a pram and say 'wow nice kid shame it looks stupid'.. Of course not, so why do they think its ok to insult our dogs?
The fact is each and every one of our dogs are perfect souls who complete us, they are small packages of sunshine laughter and joy why would anyone want to ruin that for us?
I was taught the same: Say nice or nothing at all. Unfortunately, there are numerous folks out there that are seemingly uneducated and downright rude, not just to dogs. A friend had a very prominent birthmark on his face, had it removed and the surgery didn't go well. Strangers would walk up to him and say: What happened to your face? He would lie and say motorcycle accident, because it was, in his opinion, a better story. It would completely annoy me that these strangers felt a) that they considered it their business and b) they thought it okay to embarrass my friend. Another friend was part American Indian and strangers would come up and ask: What are you?
I don't understand this behavior at all. It's completely, totally, idiotic and unacceptable. I know that I couldn't be as tolerant as my friends were and would have to come back with a snarky comment or two.
I'm just waiting for the day that someone says something about our Woody. He has lost so much hair on his ears from past ear infection issues that he looks different. His spirit is amazing and is one of the most sensitive and loving dogs I've every had in my life.
BTW @mad-murphy both your pups are BEAUTIFUL!!!
something came up on my FB menories today and I thought Id share it because it cheered me up and made me realise whats important after the nasty comment from the armchair expert yesterday...
*Theres been a load of crap about crufts on the news and the net the last few days people taking one side or the other and being quite nasty about other peoples views so I thought I would just say ..
I look at my own 14 year old beagle Benny each morning and think OMG you are beautiful , you are strong , eager , alert slim and downright wonderful. The best beagle ever born.
I look at my old crossbreed Remy and think , you got the short straw boyo,,, a small head and broad shoulders, chicken stick thin legs and a constant sad look. You wont win any beauty shows unless the judges can look inside and see the kind, loving, shy, little dog who sticks to me like velcro, who laid in front of his housemate after he was attacked and sheltered him from any other foe who might dare try it on.
A little dog who is scared of his own shadow but who let Oscar use him as a pillow and would front up to any dog who got too close when Oscar got frail.
I dont need anyone else to tell me my dogs are wonderful I know they are. I dont need a rosette to tell me they are winners they won my heart years ago.
But I also know that everyone who truely loves their pet thinks exactly the same about thier compainion and I accept that without malice or jelousy.
Its a pity there arent more who think that way.*
Awwww @mad-murphy I love that ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks, but add any dogs name and description and it applies to anyone who loves their dog.
At the end of the day if they are happy and healthy isnt that what matters? Benny the beagle was a pedigree son of champions, we left his papers hanging on the wall of the family who despite all that had abused him and tried to drown him. The papers meant nothing, they gave him no protection against those monsters and they didnt make us love him any more or any less..
I don't know why people have to criticize everything that they don't understand, or feel that they need to put their nasty comments for all to see.
Years ago I had my dear, beloved little Jack Russell Eddie at the vet's office and there was a young teen at the clinic with his grandmother. He kept pointing at my Eddie and saying, "Ugly dog, ugly dog, ugly dog." The grandmother tried to shush him, but he just ignored her and kept it up.
When I was young I usually didn't confront anyone, but that day I did and I probably didn't handle it well, because I said, "Bite me, Fat Boy." 😬
Nowadays I would probably walk up to the boy and introduce him to my dog and talk to him in a more positive way. I don't think I helped the situation but it did shut the kid up.
Here is Eddie back in 1993 when he was ready to go to a friend's birthday party.
I read this last week.. i had a lot to say but since the clock change thing i've been struggling in the braining department. lol
Maybe's a little wall eyed. And now she has this horrible wart on her face. Sunday while she was running around the backyard boyfriend and i were talking about how she looks like one of those kid books with the three sectioned pages where you can add bird legs to a lobster head, etc... She looks like two breeds spliced together. Her top half is boxy like a bulldog and her bottom half is just a normal mutty dog. ( lol. "I" can say it, "I" am her mom! 😛) But she is my princess and i love her from each twisty toenail to every eyelash that points the wrong way!
I had her in the vet one day, she was sitting behind my legs / under the bench (as i have trained both my dogs so that should a strange dog come at them, he would have to literally go through me first!) A woman across the lobby with two horribly mannered retrievers commented on Maybe being a sweet old lady just because she was well behaved. Not even her looks - just called her "old" and OH! i was so angry. @amongtrees i wish i'd told that jealous old broad to bite me!
I've gotten good about holding my tongue, but i rarely have the patience to communicate with people that start me off on that foot.
Ha, Thumbs! 😉 Yes, bite me is very useful. 😉
One lady in the vet waiting room called Pompey fat and then asked him name. When I said, "Pompey" she said, "Ohhhhh......Pom-PAY!"
I said, "No, it's Pompey," and she started to argue with me about my dog's name. haha
I should have spelled it Pompi and maybe then people wouldn't insist it's pronounced Pom-PAY. 😛
Since I posted about this on FB a lot of people have reacted saying that they have also been victims of this kind of abuse (because thats what it is) from other so called dog lovers. I also know that its not just dog people when my daughters friend lost her pet rat many people told her good riddence the same was true when my daughter lost Matilda at 20+ years of age (Matilda was a tarentula)
Isnt it sad that there are some people so twisted and negative that they cannot see the light that shines from within each of these wonderful pets and how that makes our human lives just that little bit brighter...
Ive decided I cant be angry at them, Instead I should pity them, pity them for the fact that they cant see the love that our pets brings to us.